I’m Whitney – a wife of a firefighter and mom of two boys, loving life in Ohio. By day, I’m a CPA specializing in corporate tax. By night, my first priority is spending time with my husband and sons. I’m also blessed with an amazing family, supportive (and hilarious) friends and two spoiled dogs. In my free time, I can be found reading, Netflixing or pretending I’m a good runner. I love red wine, country music and online shopping. I’m imperfect, but I try every day to be a better person.
About my blog
I started this blog in February of 2012 with no real direction. I just wanted to write – something I find relaxing and somewhat therapeutic. I’ve blogged about food, dates, running, dogs, family, friends…but as my life as evolved, so has my blog. Becoming a mother has taught me so much, but the thing I’ve learned that has had the biggest impact on me is this: you have to chose your “ten”.
Let me explain: on a particularly stressful and difficult day at work after my first son was born, I was meeting with my mentor and ended up having a mini-meltdown. She shared something with me that had gotten her through many years of working and raising small children: it is impossible to be a “ten” in all areas of your life. You cannot be the perfect mother, wife, friend, daughter, employee, etc. all at the same time, and if you try to do so, you will end up running yourself ragged or letting people down – or both. Basically, no one will be happy, and you’ll feel like a complete failure – the very definition of a lose-lose situation.
Instead, you must decide where you want to be a ten, and where you are okay with being less than that. That’s not to say that if you aren’t a ten at work or as a friend then these areas of your life aren’t important. It’s quite the opposite of that actually: by admitting that this season of your life requires a certain set of priorities, you’re giving all other areas of your life more effort than if you were spreading yourself too thin.
The “having it all” mentality puts too much pressure on women and sets standards that are all but impossible to reach. Some may disagree with my thoughts on this, and that’s perfectly fine! I know there are superwomen out there (I know and love some of them!), but for most of us, life has to be about balance and setting priorities.
For me – and for this blog – my “tens” are in my home: being a wife, mother and follower of Christ. This is where my focus and attention are most needed, and truthfully, it’s where it’s most wanted. This season of my life is different from all the others I went through while writing this, but it’s not any better or worse. Just different. It still includes my family, friends, hobbies and work, but in different mixes. My goal for what I share on True Whit is to write about my life and some of tricks that make everything balance. And just like I am, this blog is a work in progress!